The Shadow Vault

Here's my (perhaps) sage advice:

The age difference is virtually meaningless. People are just people, and if you can find someone you are interested in and is interested in you, and with whom you share a common idea of what you expect from a relationship, you have a chance for happiness. Except for keeping in mind the under/over 18 rules (two people both under 18 are allowed to be together, two people both over 18 are allowed to be together, but NEVER mix over/under - it's against the law here for some reason), never let a number stand between you and an otherwise positive and healthy relationship.

As far as distance is concerned, it depends upon you and it depends upon her. Every person has their own custom ideas about what they want and expect from a boyfriend/girlfriend/SO/lover/spouse/etc... and the largest source of discord in these relationships is where two people's custom ideas are not matched. If what you (and/or she) are looking for in a relationship is intellectual and emotional contact and intimacy, fun, friendliness, and other things that can be had in one way or another regardless of distance (ie: via the internet, the telephone, the postal system), then you can have a happy, fulfilling relationship over any distance. If you (and/or she) require/expect/want a more physical connection, daily meetings, holding hands, frequent 'dates', ...other physical connections... and on a continuous basis, in order to be satisfied and/or fulfilled in any relationship, then a long distance relationship will probably NOT work. But... there are too many variables and too many positions for each variable for each person that I could not possibly give you more than general advice on the subject: Figure out what you think about it, then, if you think you might be good with it... somewhere in between finding out whether she is single and attempting a long distance relationship, find out what she thinks about it all... and then you will have your answer.

It's possible that you may be better off with the couple of months you have before you move, in daily contact with her, then worrying about whether it will last beyond that... at least until you've got into the relationship, eh? 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have gotten up the nerve to even find out whether she's single, right?

So ask her. What have you got to lose? Not money, not your bike or the clothes off your back. Not your health. You can only gain, even if you only gain the knowledge you ask for, it is not loss. If there is no possibility of loss, there is no gamble. Ask away.